Looking after yourself

Having a loved one in Intensive Care can be emotionally and physically exhausting.  It can be all too easy to forget to take care of yourself. Try to remember, though, that you will need all your strength to help look after your loved one when he/she gets out of hospital.

Try to keep to as normal a routine as you can

It might help to try to stick as closely to your normal routine as you can (getting up or eating at your normal time, for example), no matter how difficult this might seem.

Eat well and rest as much as you can

It might seem like common sense, but it's all too easy to forget to eat properly when you're stressed and upset. Some people find that it helps to eat little and often.You may also find it hard to sleep in the first few days or if your loved one's condition becomes unstable or is deteriorating. Try to get as much rest as you can, even if it's just short naps during the day.

Don't be frightened to ask for help

Friends and family often rally round when someone is seriously ill. Don't be afraid to ask for help, as people are normally very happy to do whatever they can. 

Arranging time off work

If you are already working from home due to the coronavirus outbreak, think about speaking to your employer as soon as you can about taking some time off work, especially in the first few days after your loved one is admitted to Intensive Care.You might also want to think about taking some time off when he/she gets out of hospital, or working in a more part-time or flexible way. From what other people have told us, most employers are very understanding in these circumstances, and usually try to accommodate.

Nominate a spokesperson to keep others up to date

You may find that your phone never stops ringing,especially if you have a large circle of family and friends enquiring after your loved one. While some find this very comforting and supportive, there may be times when you simply want to be left alone.You might find it useful to nominate a family member or friend who can keep everyone else up to date on your behalf.

Spiritual support

Many people take great comfort in their faith at these times. If you would like to speak with someone, ask the staff to contact a member of the Spiritual Care Team. They can offer a kind ear, regardless of your faith or situation. If you would like to speak with someone from your own faith or belief system, they will be very happy to make the arrangements for you.